The Infamous Random Text

Her Scenario:

You are chilling at home doing some work on your laptop and you hear your cell phone buzz. You have a new text message from an old friend that reads: "Hey stranger, Happy New Year. Hope all is well." KG, umm yea explain....

He Says:

Being presented with this scenario causes me to think back to my former life—one where I was a guy who would send the random text.  To a woman, this may come off as completely random; but trust me, it is rarely actually random.  Men are very territorial.  If you have ever given a man the goods--a kiss, a hug, or even the slightest idea that he has a chance---in that man’s mind, he has placed his claim on a small part of your “territory”.  The random text plays a very important part in holding on to any piece of ground he may still lay claim to.  In my past life, any woman I’d encountered could find herself the recipient of the random text because there are so many potential places it could lead. Sometimes there were tangible benefits to sending this message, and sometimes it just led to the rekindling of a good friendship; but there was always some sort of positive return.   

The fun part after initially sending the text is anticipating the response from the female.  That first response sets the tone for any future contact, or lack thereof.  If a man receives a message back that contains any of the following: exclamation points, extra letters, or smiley faces (especially the one with the tongue out), in his mind, you have just opened the door for him to walk back through.  Ladies, you can be single, engaged, married, or divorced and it won’t matter--the random text will always present itself to you.  Why, you ask?  Men continue to send them because they have absolutely nothing to lose by doing so.  Even if you haven’t talked to him in weeks, months, or maybe even years, a man will use this test as a means of sticking his foot in the water to see if it’s hot or cold.  If it’s cold, you go back to your regular life and he sends a random text to some other lucky prospect.  Oh, but if that water is still hot---the possibilities are endless!

She Says:
Hmm..makes sense! I decided to have a girl moment and take a poll from a few different guys after reading KG's reponse. Seems like most men have the same thoughts on this...dude is testing the waters. One guy friend stated "I call this a 'gateway phrase' because it starts converstiaon which ultimately will end up with me asking to meet up." Another guy friend, who is older, asked two more questions before he responded. "How close to New Year's did the text come?" and "What time of day was the text sent?" The text was a few days after NYE and sent in the afternoon. Older guy responded "hmmm could be geniune interest there, go for it..." So I guess I have my answer huh?!